Sunday, April 26, 2009

My Blogging

As usual I got behind on my blogging but I got the itch today and have gotten all caught up. Mostly because my mother is using the internet more and more and she has started reading it. Strange how motivating a mother can be .

Patch Adams Poem

Below is a poem that I first heard recited by Robin Williams in the movie Patch Adams.
It makes me think of Lori and my love her as sometimes she tells me I am not good at being affectionate.

Sonnet 17
by Pablo Neruda
I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.

I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you simply, without problems or pride:
I love you in this way
because I don't know any other way of loving
but this, in which there is no I nor you,
so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand,
so intimate that when I fall asleep
it is your eyes that close.

Tux fitting and Dress selection day.

Today everything went well. All of the girls found dresses and most of the men have been fitted for tuxedos. There are a couple stragglers who have not been fitted for tuxedos yet but I have spoken to each of them and I am very confident they will get this completed in time.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Marriage counseling Session 5 Avoiding the Money Battles & Session 6 Expectations versus real life

After reviewing our combined list of “Fight rules” we completed 2 sessions in the meeting today. The sessions were #5 Avoiding the Money Battles and # 6 Expectations versus real life.

For session # 5 we discussed money as a common area that causes marriage conflicts and ways to avoid that happening to us (when we can’t avoid the conflicts we are to see session 4 “Fight Rules” . We talked about the best person equipped to handle the money should be the one selected to handle it but also how the other partner should be kept in the loop on this as well. We discussed setting a budget together as well as giving ourselves individual money to do things with as well.

Session # 6 was about Expectations versus Real Life. During this session we discussed how often times expectations can so often be very different from real life and how it is important to make each other aware of what we expect as well as be aware of what the other expects. Often times in life it is possible for us to think we are meeting the expectation of our spouse when in reality we are so far from that. This led into Lori and I discussing what we expect from the marriage and from each other.

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Lori gets her dress

Lori, her mother, her sister, Dee and Barbara went shopping and found Lori’s wedding Dress. She came home so happy to find a dress she likes and fits here nice. I am so excited for her and can’t wait to see her wear it on our special day. I get 6 months of Christmas anticipation and since Lori will not tell me who’s house she will stash it at I have no way of even snooping, even if I wanted to which I do not since it is said to be bad luck.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

The Bill’s schedule is out.

Today the NFL schedule came out and for the first time in my life I did not go right to the Cowboy’s schedule to see who they played. This time I went right to the Buffalo Bill’s schedule to see where they played on Oct 25. Some are wondering why I (a life long Cowboys fan) would be interested in where the Buffalo Bills play the day after our wedding but the reasoning is simple. Ralph Wilson Stadium (home of the Bills) is about a mile from our reception hall and the attached hotel gets quite busy during home games. It turns out that both God and the NFL are smiling on our wedding as the Bills play a road game in Carolina that weekend so there is not conflict for the hotel rooms.